This story is about an event that marked a major turning point in my childhood. It is my first true recollection of shame and humiliation. I was six years old.
I can remember the whole thing so clearly. It all started on a night just like any other night. My younger brother and I were playing in my Fisher Price kitchen. The kitchen was my own personal Eden. It had an oven, a small table with yellow plastic chairs, a refrigerator, a sink, a telephone, and cabinets. It was my pride and joy. I was an imaginative child, but also I enjoyed things to be realistic. In order to make my kitchen legitimate I began smuggling food into my room, hiding it in the box of Play Mobile toys. I had been doing this for months, slowly accumulating more and more until I had achieved enough ingredients to host a diverse menu of goodies. After I had been put to bed, I would sneak into my closet and eat. One day I got very bold and stole an entire bag of cookies. This is where our story begins.
I was playing with my brother in the kitchen. We were pretending to be Kings and Queens and wore our bathrobes to better illustrate our majesty. I can see him now, sitting in the yellow chair, me standing before him, wringing my hands as I decided whether or not to honor him with the knowledge of my secret.
"Can you keep a secret?" I asked his three year old self.
He blinked at me, solemn as an owl, and nodded.
"I'm about to show you something, something you cannot tell anyone about. Not even Mom and Dad. Do you swear?"
He nodded.
Satisfied with his oath, I went to the closet, flung open the doors, turned on the light, and heaved my box of Play Mobile toys out into the open.
For those of you that do not know what a Play Mobile is, here is a picture:
So I had pulled the box out. It was brimming with delicacies. Animal crackers, yogurt covered raisins, normal raisins, various cereals, chips, peanuts, and the Big Kahuna: a never opened bag of Keebler's rainbow chip cookies. My brother stared down at the splendor of which I had just unveiled, gazing back up at me in question.
"Here," I said, pulling out a yellow plate and placing THREE cookies on it. "Have some." This was also my first experience at playing hostess. It gave me a thrill of satisfaction to be able to provide for my guest, to keep him happy and comfortable. I pulled out a plate for myself and together we dined, still pretending to be Kings and Queens but now the game made more realistic with the appearance of actual food at our table.
I should never have trusted him.
It happened a few nights later. Dad was putting me to bed and my brother was waiting his turn. In doing so he decided to while away the minutes in my room. I can see him in his blue one-piece pajamas, complete with feet. Dad and I were reading in bed . . . Brother walks in. I watch him with trepidation, my heart clenching in my chest as I see him pull out a yellow plate and set it on the table. It was panic as I've only known it a few other times in my life. I stared frantically from my brother to my dad, praying that the latter hadn't noticed. Dad kept on reading, blithely unaware of the mounting hysteria taking place inside his small daughter.
My brother was on the move again. He pulled open the closet door. This couldn't be happening. Sweat began to creep onto my brow as I watched him bend down to the box and select . . . A COOKIE!!! NOOOOO!! I leapt out of bed and snatched the cookie out of his hand! He stared at me in bemusement, but I had no time for explanations. Instead I tossed it back into the box and closed the closet doors, rushing into bed. Dad apparently found nothing amiss with my behavior and had continued reading. But my brother was relentless. As soon as I was in bed he opened the door again and bent down to retrieve another cookie. I watched in stunned horror. Surely he couldn't be doing it again?
He was.
He had gotten three cookies out of the box this time and was positioning them neatly on his plate. Just as he was preparing to lower himself into the chair I once more sprang out of bed in an attempt confiscate the evidence. This time Dad took notice.
"What do you keep getting out of bed for?"
My brother had followed me over to the closet and was once again trying to get the cookies back. I hip-checked him out of the way, sending him crashing sideways. This immediately roused Dad's suspicions. He set down the book and made his way over to the closet, peering down into the box that held my stash, the bag of Keebler cookies prominent with its red and white packaging.
I was reprimanded.
My brother left the scene unscathed, but my box of goodies had been removed and its contents emptied. I can remember watching as my months of hard work vanished in the blink of an eye. Like an ant that has meticulously gathered all summer, only to have someone come along and stomp on his anthill. I felt hollow and insignificant. Broken at age six. The next day, my punishment was not over.
My grandparents had come to visit and as I went out to greet them, there on the table, sat the rainbow chip cookies. I stared from the cookies to my dad who laughed and proceeded to inform my grandparents that I had smuggled them into my room. In hindsight I can see that they all probably thought it was funny, but at the time I knew they were disgusted with me. To me it was as if Dad was running around telling the entire family I had been hoarding methamphetamine, or perhaps that he had discovered me crouching beneath my Fisher Price kitchen table with one of my mom's nylons tied around my arm and a syringe in my hand. I was humiliated, the shame of what I had done pressing on me like a stone. I couldn't look anyone in the eye for the rest of the day and struggled to remain in the presence of the cookies for more than a few minutes lest anyone be reminded of my crime.
A few years later, I became a repeat offender. My brother's room was being painted and so he had to sleep on the floor of mine. I had smuggled in some fun size Milky Way candy bars. I tried to offer him one, goading him and needling the way teenagers often do when they are trying to coerce one another into smoking pot. When finally my peer-pressure became too much my brother screamed for a parent to come to his rescue and he told on me. That night I got the last laugh. My dad had answered the call and told my brother not to be such a tattle tale. I was left with only a minor chastisement about eating in bed and remained in possession of my snacks. After Dad left, my brother continued to make his disapproval known, hissing warnings from his position on the floor. But I didn't care. I was free. I ate the lot.